Will You Consider Remarrying or Having Another Partner if You Are a 71-Year-Old Widow or Widower? Why or Why Not?
If I were a 71-year-old widow or widower, I would not consider remarrying or seeking another partner. There are several reasons for this, and I will share them sincerely from the way I see life and relationships.
Firstly, the stress of starting a new relationship at that age is overwhelming and not something I would like to go through at the age. Relationships don’t just happen, they require time, energy, and patience. You have to get to know the person, study their character, and learn how to live with their strengths and weaknesses. You must build trust, communicate often, compromise, and constantly work on keeping the relationship healthy. These are not things I would have the strength or even the desire for at that stage of life. I believe that there is time for everything, and just as the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 3, “To everything there is a season.” The season of love, dating, and relationship building belongs to a younger phase of life. At 71, I would have passed that stage and would be focused on more peaceful and fulfilling aspects of life.
Yes, loneliness is real, and I know it will come. Losing a partner leaves a deep hole in one's life. But by the time I’m 71, I believe I would have had grown-up children, possibly with grandchildren. Their visits, calls, and presence can go a long way in keeping me company. I may even consider having someone, maybe a trusted companion or helper, who lives with me and offers both help and friendship. This doesn’t have to be romantic. Just someone to talk to, pray with, and laugh with. Emotional support can come in different forms, and at that age, companionship doesn’t have to be romantic to be meaningful.
A good example is my dad, who is a widower. Instead of looking for another partner, he has focused his time and energy on praying for us, his children, and impacting the lives of young people. He mentors a lot of youths, and many of them visit and even stay with him for a while. They help around the house and also give him the companionship and support he needs. From what I see, he is fulfilled and not missing that space. His life has taken a new direction filled with purpose and peace.
Also, one must be very careful. At that stage of life, if one isn’t careful in the choice of a new partner, he or she may end up with someone who will not give the needed love and companionship. Instead, the new partner might turn the person’s heart away from his or her own children, creating unnecessary problems in the family, scattering things you and your late partner had taken time to build. That is a risk I would never want to take.
In conclusion, while some people may feel the need to remarry later in life, for me, it would not be a choice. Peace, purpose, and the joy of family would be more than enough to fill my heart.
Thanks for reading @ritaetim
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You really made a point, but then again we all have our opinions and reason but I love your reasons and how you backed it up Kudos 👏
Yeah.
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I understand your point of view. While some relationships, even those at old age, work well, most (based on my observation anyway) often bring about unnecessary misunderstandings and conflicts amongst families. That's why we usually hear or read stories where children disagree when their parents plan to bring home another partner.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, !LADY💖
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Exactly! That's what I'm looking at
I agree with you! One thing too, unfortunately in today's world, that new husband or wife may not be of the purest of intent. If someone has something that they want, whether it be a physical thing or money, their motives might be to acquire that something. It's sad, but a very possible reality.
I agree that for the majority, seeking a new husband or wife would not be the thing that is done. Thanks for sharing and have a lovely day!
You got it My Lady. That's very true. Alot of people remarry because of what (material things) they'll benefit apart from the benefit of peace and companionship.
It's a shame really. Marrying for love is the way to go. Money cannot buy happiness. Take care my friend! Have a lovely day!
A very big shame indeed! I will My Lady 💖. Do have a lovely day too
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You have a point though someone else might have a different opinion but I love 💕 your stand.
Yeah, someone else would definitely have his or her own opinion. It all depends on what people have seen and experienced. Thank you My Lady ❣️
I appreciate your comment
Opinions differ and individuals different choices. While you may not want to remarry at that age based on the points you highlighted plus the example with your dad, another would have a beautiful union. !BBH
Yes, I don't doubt that. You are absolutely right. This issue depends on individual choice.