To start with, taking some time off from everything is necessary so you can think, evaluate, and re-strategize for a better result. I have had a pause in my life over a certain activity I was doing so I can really come back better and stronger. However, the duration of this gap differs from person to person depending on what you want to achieve; it's quite personal.
We are on a different journey in life. For some, a few weeks could be enough to pause and come back; for others, they take one month, 6 months, or even one year, but the most important thing is that you are focused and not just taking time off to waste it but rather being more deliberate over what you aim to achieve.
I would say that taking a gap year could be a good move for growth, but you must answer the "whys" behind the break. Why do I need this break? What do I want to achieve? Is this gap really needed at this point in my life? And many other reflective questions, not just that you feel that others usually take a break and you follow the crowd without a defined destination. As long as your gap year has a valid reason, then it's totally fine and shouldn't be regarded as laziness or procrastination.
One of our family friends once had a marital challenge; the dust was rising so high, and it was clearly an unhealthy relationship. At some point, he paused, took a break from the marriage, and opted for 6 months separation. To him, he needed more time for him and the wife to really study themselves before staying together. This is what happens when you rush into marriage without taking your time to study your spouse. Good enough; the pause was what they needed at that point. They took the 6 months for courtship, something they should have done earlier before saying yes, but the good side was that they came back better.
Personally, there was a time I needed a gap between work. I quit the dental job I was doing due to many reasons back then and decided to do an office job, more like paper job for a while . Because it wasn't my line of study, I declined a job offer from a friend as an admin and took a break to equip myself with the needed skill. Those days I paused working were for a purpose; I set my goal and structured things in a way to enter into the new job as a better staff member.
When I finally took an admin/secretary job in one private oil and gas firm, I knew I was ready for the role. My goal was achieved with the break and while it was my last office job before I started working from home, I made a positive impact in the firm that, to date, I still maintain a good job relationship with them.
Overall the way we use our time matters. Gap years or weeks or months can be good or bad depending on your motive, but as long as you are focused and intentional about such a break in your life, it usually brings about growth.
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That’s right. Taking that break for a purpose makes it all worth while. It’s not wise to have an unused gap year to either improve self or rejuvenate.
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Sure...we can't go wrong with taking a pause when genuinely needed
That’s right.
In case of relationship I am not an expert and that's why I won't say anything about it. But I don't think break is a good options for growth in other cases because we can grow even without taking break if we make efforts. !PIZZA
Yea..we can grow without taking a break but any time we feel it's needed , then why not
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Thanks for this wonderful write up, it reminds me of my past relationships two years ago it's neither cold or hot, this same person will hurt me and immediately ask for my forgiveness and he do the the same over and over again, although he asking for my forgiveness anytime he hurt me but I was emotionally depressed to extent that I can't take it anymore. I asked a break but he refused and I had to left him because I see there is no sign that he is ready to change. He later come for me with his friends to apologize but I made my decision. My intention feels like I should consider him but my keep refusing.
Hmmm I can relate with your experience Sometimes break does magic in relationship too...unfortunately , he didn't buy the idea All the best sis
Taking a break to be productive can lead to growth, that's a fact but sometimes ehn, something else can creep in to derail us from our paths.
You said well when you mentioned defining the why for the break.
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Of course..something can creep in btw, but we must be sensitive especially if u defined your whys
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Thank you ma 😁
This is beautifully written, what we do with our gap year really matters.
Sometimes we just need that break to think everything true
Of course .even thinking is enough to take break for