Training a child isn't something that is easy to do, because there is no manual or instructions for you to follow, you just have to follow your guts and base your teachings off of what you feel is good and bad. Some times most parents end up getting it a bit wrong or doing too much, especially with the first child because it's their first time.
Before I go any further, I would first like to put it out there that I might be wrong on some things when it comes to this topic (as I'm not a parent myself) but this is genuinely what I think about it, so please take it easy with me if I say something horribly wrong.
Personally, I feel my parents did a fantastic job raising I and my siblings, although there are maybe one or two things I feel they could have done a bit better. A good example of one of those things was how very protective they were of us back then.
It's normal for every parent to want to be in their child's life and maybe try to control everything about it, but I do honestly feel that there are some times in a kid's life where the parents just have to sit back, watch them and try not to interfere much, especially when it comes to situations that we know that the worse case scenerio of it wouldn't hurt the kid.
I say this because I personally didn't get to experience much in life until I eventually left home for school. As a matter of fact, the number one reason why I had requested to school somewhere far away from home was due to this same reason, because I wanted to be free and see things for myself, without having anyone there to guide me.
When I eventually left home for school, it took me a while to be able to adjust, and probably would have taken me a lot longer if my elder brother wasn't already schooling at the same school.
What am I trying to say? Well I feel like as a parent, it is your responsibility to try to put your kids out there from an early age. Make them participate in things like friendly competitions or whatever, give them the opportunity to do certain things themselves, on their own, because stuff like that helps them build character and confidence.
Because there are a lot of shy kids out there nowadays, and sometimes it is due to them hiding in the shadows of their parents all their lives and not being able to socialise and do certain things themselves that caused that low self esteem.
I suffered a little bit of that growing up, so trust me when I say that no one wants that for themselves because it makes them feel weak.
The funny thing is that at first, your kids might think you hate them for putting them out there to do things they probably don't feel like doing, but as time goes on, as they get older, they will realize how all of that stuff has helped build them into a much more better person.
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If we stay under the protection of parents all the time, we won't be able to understand the struggle of real life. It's something we need to face to understand it because parents can't protect us all the time.