For some, it may come naturally, something they have always done, while for others it may take a lot of work, but having adequate and healthy self-esteem that allows us to love ourselves is what leads us to feel secure and satisfied with our body and spirit, in a combination of both.
A few days ago, talking to someone I know, the subject of adolescence in women came up and how we often don't feel comfortable with ourselves, we see ourselves as ugly, or that everything looks bad on us, and I think that's a process that many women go through because of the changes we undergo. Men are different, they go through their changes, but not like us, and it's very hard.
That reminded me of when I didn't like the changes that were happening to me. I hadn't learned to value myself, to like myself, to love myself, and I looked at myself in the mirror and saw myself as ugly, very ugly. That's why I wore black, baggy clothes. I didn't want my curves to show. I was starting to develop very nice curves, but to me that was strange.
It took a long, long time, but by changing my mindset and the way I saw myself, I began to like myself, and today I like myself a lot. I look in the mirror and feel beautiful, attractive, and very feminine. I like what I see, and that in turn is reflected on the outside. If I look good, others will too. I always say it's a matter of vibration and we have to start with ourselves. But I can't deny that it was hard work that I did on my own, no one guided me or taught me any of this.
Unconsciously, women need to be seen as beautiful, they need the approval of others, but little is taught about self-approval and liking ourselves, loving ourselves, that takes a process.
Today, seeing myself and liking myself, every part of my body from my hair to my feet, is what makes me feel feminine and confident, regardless of what others think, regardless of whether they look at me when I walk down the street or go to the beach, it doesn't matter.
Learning to value my body, to feel comfortable, very comfortable with it, to value it makes me feel attractive to myself, and that in turn attracts attention.
I used to think that having good curves, good proportions, being slim but with good feminine attributes was attracting attention, and I hid myself away. Today, that is no longer the case. Today, I enjoy my figure and I love it. Attracting myself makes me feel very confident about my physique and who I am. I used to think that all clothes looked bad on me, I wasn't happy. That changed radically once I did some inner work and started to like what I saw in the mirror, and I like it a lot.
I feel very feminine, and I'm not one of those women who wear makeup or provocative clothes. I'm very natural in that regard. On the contrary, I don't usually wear makeup, just eyeliner, lipstick or gloss, and little else. I don't wear low-cut tops either, in fact, almost never, nor do I wear very tight clothes, but the way I carry myself is what makes the difference. I think the change came from within.
In short, I think I would say that what makes me feel feminine, attractive and confident is loving myself, liking myself a lot, without needing anyone else's approval.
Some processes take work, but if you have perseverance and willpower, you can achieve them. Thank you @galenkp for these excellent weekend topics.
And thank you all very much for joining me today. I wish you a very good weekend. See you soon. Amonet.
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What happened in adolescence is something that happened to many of us, in the process of accepting others. It is normal for that age and it is a characteristic of adolescence. But, what should not happen is that we always carry this need for acceptance of others to feel good or to be something or "someone", according to the norms of society. The first thing we must learn is to lie down and love ourselves first. If we achieve that the rest will follow. José Martí, Cuba's national hero, used to say that he who carries much inside needs little outside. And if you combine that inner beauty with your outer acceptance and love yourself there is nothing more beautiful than that. Ah, by the way she writes, responds and behaves within the ecosystem I don't need to see her to know she is a beautiful woman, excuse the boldness. Thank you for sharing. I loved this post. Happy weekend. Cheers and best regards.
They say that what's inside always ends up reflecting on the outside, and I certainly believe that. Thank you very much for this valuable comment, I really appreciate it. I am very grateful and wish you a wonderful weekend!
Thank you very much for your kindness and generosity Happy day. Greetings and best regards.
Thank you to you!!🤗
Good afternoon, dear friend @avdesing
Self-esteem is very important for feeling good, especially valuing ourselves as people. I share your thoughts that it's not easy to have self-esteem, and achieving it takes time.
It's wonderful that you feel good about yourself, that you've learned to love yourself and see yourself well. Without a doubt, change has to come from within.
I appreciate you sharing this experience.
Have a beautiful Saturday afternoon.
Maybe it can help someone else. It's true that sometimes it can be an intense process. Thank you very much!
Hello Amonet
I know I'm still a child and have a lot to learn, but I understand what you're saying; it happens to me.
My self-esteem is always high because I'm supported by my grandparents, especially Gaby, who is always by my side.
A few months ago, we had a problem at home with a kitten we adopted. He had a fungal disease, which is why I'm losing his hair. That's why I wear a headband so the hair loss isn't noticeable.
It makes me very happy to know that you feel good about yourself.
Have a wonderful afternoon.
I understand you perfectly, and the most important thing is that you have that support close to you. That's essential. Don't worry, hair grows back. Thank you, and hugs!
Hi @avdesing, unfortunately, for many people, trying to gain approval is very important, almost a matter of survival. Some people even get surgery to please others and follow stupid fashion models.
Clearly, this isn't your case, and I'm glad.
A big hug.
A big hug.
No, that's not my case. I like and accept myself as I am, but it's true that many people have very low self-esteem for various reasons. It's often a very sensitive issue. Thank you very much! Hugs!
No, that's not your case. And thank you for sharing such great content. Big hug. See you tomorrow. 🤗👋
See you tomorrow, good night!🤗👋
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And that cool-looking bird? Hahaha… I completely agree with you. That’s how it should be. 😉
Very good! That seagull wanted to steal the show! Thank you very much!🤗
Society has many stereotypes, and I love the idea of not pigeonholing ourselves into any of them and just being ourselves. The most important thing is to feel good about ourselves.
A hug! 🤗
That's the most important thing, no one is going to do it for us. Thank you very much!
How great for you to embrace that change from within! My applause!
It's the real change, thank you very much!🤗
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Loving yourself is the key to feeling fulfilled. Seeking approval from others and fitting into stereotypes ultimately brings no benefits and can lead to frustration. What's trendy today may not be trendy tomorrow. By loving yourself as you are, these standards don't affect who you are.
Have a great week!
Exactly, it's the best thing for everyone. Have a wonderful day!
Thank you so much 🤗😊
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