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The past working week was very dynamic for me.

I visited two countries, flew by plane, was driven by car for hours, slept in different hotels, had lunch and dinner in different restaurants and I was very pleased when I saw a post with new topics for #weekend-engagement in #weekend-experiences. I knew that the work week was coming to an end and the weekend was coming 😀

In one of the restaurants along the way, I came across an interesting sign.

I took a picture of it, because I knew that I would use that photo in some post, but I did not believe that it would be just a few days later, in the post that I would write in #weekend-engagement.

On that board, although of a humorous nature (since it refers to frequent arguments between men and women, when women are always right), the directions of the arrows are clearly shown - the total opposite of man and woman. As for the direction to the toilet, so for thinking about a problem, about life attitudes, about love.

And then I see a thread with a quote from Simone de Beauvoir: "The word love has by no means the same sense for both sexes, and this is one cause of the serious misunderstandings that divide them" and the topic @galenkp came up with: "What does the following quote mean to you and why".

everything comes to my mind, how it was, how it is now and how it should be...

A man, strong and stable, constantly present, hardworking, who provides material security to his partner and his offspring, by being with them, considers himself to be showing an absolute act of love. Renunciation of the bachelor life and the desire to be tied to only one woman, really represents the very peak of his love for that one woman. But wanting to please her at all times, if necessary, sometimes working two jobs to provide her with everything she wants, probably won't be treated as an act of love in her eyes. She will consider it routine and obligations that a man should do regardless of her desires. And what does a woman really need? Conversation, sharing of emotions, understanding, closeness, support (emotional, not exclusively material).

I have learned this through life and I remember the moments of great joy of my partner, when I remembered an important date, when I told her how I feel, when I listened to her stories about misunderstandings with parents or colleagues, when I felt her heart racing on my chest when she was too scared. Those were the moments when she showed me what love means to her. Not when I brought her a gift from a trip that I knew she wanted, but when I put the key in the door lock and stepped into our home. And when I hugged and kissed her.

I started writing this post when I got home from getting meat for today's lunch. She said she was going to make grilled zucchini with marinade. A true division of labor...🙂

When she started banging pots and pans in the kitchen, I stopped writing the post and came over to help her, because I knew that a little oil had to be put on the grilling pan, and then the zucchini would loosen the water and splash the heated oil on her hands. With her gentle hands, the splash of oil bothers her and she's afraid of it, I'm used to it, so it's not a problem for me. And who should I help if not her, whom I love. There will be, and there is, time to write a post, and with that presence, when we talked in the kitchen while I was grilling zucchini, we shared some feelings that we had while I was away.

There is still a need for a man in a love relationship to be the stronger side, but that strength, skill, ability is not all that a woman expects from a man as proof of love.

It was never like that, because in love relationships there were also men who are hopeless, who are not strong and who don't know how to do anything with their hands, but that's why they certainly know how to communicate with women, because they, too, had them.

Through conversation, sharing feelings, care and closeness, these two arrows on the board above, change their direction and move like the flow of a river, together, in a wonderful love relationship.