I have had several blind dates, although I would say they are not as blind now due to the rise of social media and technological advances. However, you can never truly compare a photograph—almost always filled with filters and taken from certain angles—with the presence of the person. The same goes for videos; there are always discrepancies. Still, you can get an idea of what the person looks like, even if later you end up disappointed or are the ones who disappoint. Of course, pleasant surprises can also happen.
I also had blind dates when WhatsApp and other similar applications did not yet exist, although you could send photos by e-mail or look at each other through the Webcam, sometimes I skipped those steps, I do not remember exactly why but I did it.
Well, anyway, once I was talking for several days via telephone with a very nice girl. She confided in me some emotional problems she was having and was mostly looking for friendships to distract herself, but I.... I wanted a girlfriend, although I was never forward about it, I took my time to take it one step at a time.
One day, she invited me to have a coffee in an open restaurant to talk and see each other at last. She arrived first and told me by SMS that she was waiting for me, she also told me what color she was wearing. When I arrived, I dialed her and kept a little distance to stealthily see who was answering the call, when I saw her and knew who it was I simply cut the call and left, I didn't have the courtesy to approach and didn't answer her calls anymore.
After many years I remember that episode and I am a little ashamed, although I have told it more than once as a joke, I am not proud of it and now much less because when I write it down I feel it much more than just remembering it or commenting on it. Although, I better get rid of the guilt now, I was very young and at the time I was insensitive.
Poor girl, she wanted to have a nice time and meet a new friend.... She even invited me for a coffee and I just vanished, she surely wasn't stupid and realized everything. I was going with the intention of meeting someone for a possible relationship although I may not have said it, but those 100+ kilos of weight scared me away.
I regret being so superficial, maybe I would have met a good friend, or maybe not, faces we see, hearts we don't know. What I do know is that I was insensitive and cruel, rude and ill-mannered.
But, well, it is not good to punish yourself too much, it is better to take mistakes as opportunities to reflect, grow and learn.
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It's good to admit errors and demonstrations of poor character like in this case as it underlines it and gives one the chance to learn from it and hopefully do better next time.
Ghosting that girl showed a lack of quality on your part, a judgement based only on appearances, when it wouldn't have hurt you to have had a coffee with her and maybe leave her feeling better than before you arrived through friendship rather than feeling terrible which is how I imagine she felt after being treated this way.
Of course, punishing yourself for acting in that way will not be a good thing either - Best to take ownership, learn something about yourself, to improve and move forward as it seems you've done.
Thanks for sharing and for being honest.
Yes of course, my behavior was disgusting, if I could go back I would give myself a couple of slaps, I acted badly but then I couldn't make up for what happened.
That behavior has never been my tendency, but as a human being I have been so wrong and I am glad I am no longer able to do something like that even sporadically.
Thanks to you for the opportunity to confess.
You learned from it and that's the value; it's in the past and you're better because of it.
Totally, lesson learned 👍
If that event served to change certain attitudes, then it was in your life for that very reason. Yes, it was bad, but today you are a different person, and that is what matters most!
The present is the most important thing 😊
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Everything has a reason to happen, and we must to take that like an opportunity for learning and improve ourselves. Great post and the pic is awesome. Thanks for sharing ☺️
Everything happens for a reason, but we are certainly the ones who make it happen, so better to focus on doing better and better.
I'm glad you liked the post and the photo ☺️
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